How I manifested my partner
Clues for reality creation
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I’ve been thinking a lot about magic, manifestation aka moonifestation, and reality creation in general lately.
That’s because I’m beginning a different phase of life, and a good rule of thumb is to begin new phases resourced. Life navigation pivots run a bit more smoothly with the help of magic, ritual, energy work. To begin, it’s good to figure out what your specific reality map is, specifically around more epic life events.
One of those epic ways was how I found my partner.
My partner is…the best possible person for me.
He’s adorable, patient, fun, loving, kind, and probably the smartest person I know. He’s dedicated his vocation to saving lives.
Completely down to work on our relationship, he’s always accountable while nudging me towards growth. He’s honest and not afraid to be uncomfortable or to stretch.
He’s constantly surprising me with treats and or spontaneous get aways, like the tiny house we are enjoying right now in the desert.
Most importantly, when I got my leukemia diagnosis and many friends left me, and my family was of no support, he stayed. He’s shown me the meaning of true loyalty, commitment, and love.
It’s been a blessing, a joy, and an honor to be with him.
People have told us more than once that they want what we have and that we should start a podcast. LOL.
How on Earth did I manifest him, the most important external relationship in my life?
Below, I’m sharing some key components to the process.
I wasn’t looking. I met my person just after I had comically sworn off dating for a year. The focus at the time was my work and self-development. I was incredibly clear of what my energy would be spent on. Weeks later, this interesting, intriguing person crossed my path. Key number one: Get clear about what you are doing, and commit to embodying your passions. This will make you more attractive to life in general.
Because of #1, I initially had no expectations. I was more open to dating this person because it mattered less than other things going on in my life. Because I hadn’t expected to find love, there was less attachment. That lack of attachment led me towards more curiosity and openness. Key number two: Drop expectations and prioritize experience.
My sense of self was upgraded. Right before I had met my partner, I had completely upgraded who I was going to be, in general, and in relationships. I vowed I would never be a doormat again. My needs were always going to be considered, and I was going to treat myself with much more care. This lent a very different tone to our dating than I had previously had. Key number three: Foster your inherent worth. Treat yourself as you want to be treated.
I trusted my body. Gentle reader, before I met my partner, I identified as a lesbian. Had you told my younger self that I’d end up with a transman I probably would not have believed you. However: because being with this person felt so good, natural, and calming to my nervous system, I leaned in. Previously, my relationships were push/pull, emotionally avoidant, and had high highs and low lows. This relationship was different: it was steady, calm, and made me feel safe and see. Key number four: Tune into your body.
It’s closer than you think. About a year before I reconnected randomly with my partner on a sweaty dance floor and we started dating, I had met him through friends. Key 5: What you want more of is usually in your orbit, or a few steps away. You don’t always have to go super far for what you want: you just have to be willing to see possibilities that are all around you.
Those are some the basic ingredients of any creation or reinvention process.
Look back into times in your life where you felt particularly lit up, when things felt deeply in flow, and see what the components were.
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What are some commonalities in your reality creation process? Chime in below. <3